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The Mystery of the Squashed Self Book

How to stop self-sabotaging and make your business thrive.

Are you a frustrated, but fabulous, female business owner who feels like you are losing a grip on your passion, personality and power?

Are you feeling stuck in the traps of people-pleasing, blurred boundaries and conformity?

Are you driven, but don’t feel like you are in the driving seat?


You are self-squashing.

This book will get you unsquashed. You will feel released as the REAL you with a business that thrillingly thrives rather than sort of survives.

In The Mystery of the Squashed Self, communication coach Trisha Lewis explores the drivers that lead you into these traps and equips you with the tools to spot them before you get caught.

You will meet eight frustrated business owners, Investigator Lewis and Professor P.

The eight cases are built around real stories shared by Trisha's clients, as well as her personal experience of setting up a business, self-squashing – and finally unsquashing!

Trisha Lewis is also an actor and story facilitator. She brings human stories, symptoms and science to life, with insight, resources and actions.

In these pages you’ll discover:

  • That you are human and not alone.
  • What lies behind your self-squashing.
  • How your brain tricks you.
  • How to unsquash using re-framing and the rationality filter.

For your business to grow you need to feel motivated, aligned and clear, and that means releasing the real you from the FIBs you are carrying around – fears, illusions and baggage. If that release sounds like a relief, this book is for you.

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The everyday signs of being 'squashed'

Quick self-check list!

  • 'Comparisonitis' running rampant.
  • Being 'too nice'!
  • Struggling to say 'no'.
  • Churning out 'bland' content.
  • Sucked in by the 'shoulds'.
  • Feeling 'irrationally angry' at 'stuff'.
  • Reverting to comfort zone - reluctantly

In your squashed state you are like the bubbling gas squashed under the magma crust of a volcano. Simmering with frustration. Staying beneath the surface or erupting with misplaced anger - either way - they are NOT you being you.

So how do you unsquash?

I could just be cheeky and say - work with me as your coach. I could also just suggest a good starting point.

I am going to do both! 

It is not easy to unsquash without the encouragement of a safe supportive space with a good listener! So - yes - working with a coach is highly recommended. That is not a sales ploy - that is just speaking from experience.

But here is a good starting point -

get out of your head!

Out of your head as in - objectively observing your recurrent 'barrier' thoughts and feelings and putting all your evidence out on the forensics table!

Now -

  • apply curiosity and a rationality filter!
  • brainstorm the 'stuff' that makes you buzz and feel purposeful and aligned.
  • start thinking about the worst that could happen if you allowed more of this stuff happen - and you were more 'real you'.
  • work on owning this statement: 'Being myself won't limit me.'

An unexpected sign that you are squashing yourself

Watch this IsolaTED talk - and be surprised!

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